How to Battle the Five Lies
In my last post I gave a brief introduction to five lies that every dad believes. Every day this week I will take one of these lies and show you how to battle it well. Dads, let’s dive in and see how to battle the lie of insufficiency. This lie rears its ugly head in two main ways.
• Lie = Other dads seem to know what they are doing. I’m the only one that feels this way.
• Lie = I can figure it out on my own. I’m smart enough.
Let me show you how the lie of insufficiency affected my parenting when I wasn’t walking with God. Years one through three of parenting I thought I was a capable dad. Make sure the kids are loved, fed, and well rested, right? After all parenting was new and things would get smoother with time and practice. My parenting skills could and would improve. Years four through seven began showing leaks in the bucket. During this phase I remember thinking, “I have no idea how to parent these kids” for the first time. The skills I had acquired during my kids’ first three years weren’t enough. Their growth and development outpaced my skills as a dad. If the ship was taking on water in years four through seven, it began sinking in years eight through eleven. In this stage my kids demonstrate deeper emotions, sophisticated sin, and personality clashes that highlight my insufficiency. When I’m not walking with God I tend to, as the saying goes, rearrange deck chairs on the Titanic. My desires and strategies are often pointless. I’m sure this holds even truer in the teen years. How do I battle this lie?
In both lies, the key to battling well is God’s sufficiency. Truth = other dads believe this lie. You are not alone. Other dads need help from God just like you. Truth = only God is sufficient. God has what you need. Go to Him.
- Make time in your day to read and think about God’s promises of sufficiency (Psalm 1:2-3)
- God has provided dads to encourage each other. Find dads who are on the same journey. Encourage each other. (Hebrews 10:24-25)
God entrusted you with your children. He will give you what’s needed to lead them at the right time. When starting a family no dad is qualified to lead. Ask an empty nester if he would parent differently if he could go back in time. Likely he will tell you, “I can tell you what not to do.” If we did, why would need what God provides daily? Leading a family is a process where God gives you exactly what you need today. The only way to defeat the lie of insufficiency is to focus on God who is sufficient. God gave Paul a promise in 2 Corinthians 12:9; But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. God’s sufficiency is what you and I need today. Give up control to God, ask for help and wisdom, and then stay close to Him.
Have you battled this lie? What truths have you used in that battle?