How to Battle the Lie of Perfection
My kids will remember my mistakes. I’m sure they keep a running total of my frustrations and disappointing looks in their direction. Their memory bank is full of my impatience, sarcasm, broken promises, too “busy” to play attitude, and condescending tone. Seriously, how many times can I screw it up before they write me off?
I think perfectionism and too much focus on mistakes drives this lie. So, how do you battle it? Below are some steps that will help.
- Truth = You are not perfect, acknowledge that fact and move forward. This Navy Admiral says many good things, but one of his greatest stories describes the illusion of perfection. Watch here and skip to 8:50. The process of parenting is messy, inefficient, repetitive, and exhausting. You are not perfect and you are not going to parent your kids perfectly. Your kids see it and are waiting for you to acknowledge it. Acknowledge that daily and move forward. Your mistakes are not final and you will make plenty more of them. If you are too focused on mistakes, that’s exactly what you will pass on to your kids.
- Truth = You get just as much grace as you need. That’s why we read Lamentations 3:22-23. NEW EVERY MORNING. Take the focus off of your shortcomings and receive the mercy God gives you. God entrusted you with your children according to His perfect design. You leading them is God’s perfect plan.
- Truth = God has given your children an affection for their dad. You get their affection even when you mess up. When you mess up acknowledge your sin, apologize quickly, and enjoy their affection.
- Truth = What you need for them, you get from Him. Remember when Jesus fed 5,000 people (Matthew 14:13-21)? This is parenting. Think about it. There is a need. What you have doesn’t seem like enough. You talk to Jesus and He provides what is needed. Ask Him to show you how to lead your kids. Then take what He gives and give it to your kids.
Do you struggle with this lie? Are there specific parts of Scripture that God has given you to battle it?