Busted By One of My Sons

My son Adam is very observant. Sometimes too observant.  Noticing my bare wrist he asked, “Dad, where is your BRAVE wristband?”  I sheepishly told him it’s upstairs. He looked at the BRAVE band on his wrist, shrugged, and walked off.

He’s all in with BRAVE.  I’m pretty sure he’s the only one of my sons that wears his wristband everyday.  I walked upstairs and put my wristband on.  Later at the dinner table I caught his eye.  I looked down at my BRAVE wristband and looked back at him.  He got a satisfying grin on his face.  He didn’t say a word and he didn’t have to. IMG_1440

Then the wheels began turning in my head.  What he sees me do, or not do, is teaching him what’s important.  Here’s what I mean.  Put yourself in your son’s shoes.

  • The only things he knows about life are the things you have shown him.
  • The only things he knows about God are the things you have shown him.
  • The only things he knows about work are the things you have shown him.
  • The only things he knows about money are the things you have shown him.

Honestly, this scares me.  Here’s what I realized.  I can, and do, speak to my kids about these things.  But, more is caught than taught!  My life is a blueprint for them.  This is the understatement of the year; my influence in my their lives is enormous.  I am talking about affecting many generations after me.

Now that I’m getting stressed out from the pressure I’m going mountain biking!  I don’t have all the answers.  I have done it wrong way more than I have done it right.  This week let’s look to our perfect Father for some timeless wisdom.  God is waiting for us to “catch” our cues on how to be a father from Him.  We’ll start tomorrow in the books of Exodus and Deuteronomy.

3 thoughts on “Busted By One of My Sons

  1. Mathis can be a paralyzingly concept by its sheer gravitas if we ponder it too deeply. Just like the lie of perfection we can believe we must do everything right there are valuable lessons to be learned by our sons when they witness our failures. Lessons such as repentance, how we work to correct our wrongs & learning from our mistakes. They “catch” those lessons too!

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