How Else Can I Pray for My Son?
Junior High was tough for everyone. Especially for Eddie. I spent the better part of seventh grade making jokes about, and laughing at, him. I knew the right thing to do but chose not to do it. In a word that’s called passivity. For boy’s passivity most often rears its ugly head with peer pressure. Fear of standing out, even for the right reasons, makes passivity an appealing choice. Here are some ways to pray about this issue with your son.
- Pray Psalm 119:11 out loud with your son. Memorizing this verse with him would be awesome. The first step in battling passivity is making the right decisions. How do we know the right decision? By hiding God’s Word in our hearts. “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you” (NIV).
- Pray Proverbs 6:6-11 out loud with your son. Have fun with this one. Pray that your son would be like the ant. You’ll definitely get a funny look with this one! An ant sees what’s coming and prepares for it. They are wise and they act on that wisdom. In praying for your son ask God to give him wisdom to understand the right choices and the diligence to put the right choice into action.
- Pray Joshua 1:9 out loud with your son. Sometimes passivity relates to a lack of confidence. We know the right choice but fear takes over and we remain passive. In this verse God promises His presence to Joshua. God’s presence means no fear or discouragement. How freeing would it be for us to live that way? Our son(s) would have front row seats to godly confidence! This verse would be fantastic to memorize with your son. “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go” (NIV).
One day after college God brought Eddie to my mind. I fought God so hard about calling and apologizing. After designing one excuse on top of another I looked up his number in my old high school directory. Even when seeing his parents’ address and phone number I whispered an excuse, “There’s no way I’m going to get him so just call the number. At least I can say I tried.” Guess who answered the phone? I told him who I was and asked if he remembered me from Junior High. “Yes, I remember you” he replied. Crap. I spent the next few minutes stumbling through an apology. When we said goodbye a peace saturated my body. Even though I wanted to be passive and avoided the call at all costs God had other plans. And when I obeyed there was blessing. I learned a lesson about passivity that day. It wasn’t about saying sorry. It was about knowing and doing the right thing.
Passivity is a spiritual disease crippling males. Dads, let’s set the example in leading our sons to make right choices and act on them. How are you battling passivity? Do you have a go-to verse?