What Kind of Example Did You Have Growing Up?
Lie = I have to parent like my dad. There are a couple of different ways this lie is presented based on your history.
What if your father figure was a great example? The lie you battle may be living up to his standard. He may have walked closely with God and stayed on the “straight and narrow.” He may have been consistent in saying I love you and I am proud of you. He may have attended most of, if not all, your games. He may have been wise and said the right thing at the right time. He may have been well respected and above reproach in business. Some of you may feel like the bar is so high that you can never reach it. You don’t need to reach or raise the bar. Here’s the truth.
• Truth = Because you are a son of God sealed by the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 1:13-14) God’s unlimited resources are available to you. Think about that.
• Truth = Even if your father figure was a great example he is not the father to your children. God made you with unique talents and personality. God made your kids with unique talents and personalities. In His wisdom, these truths are brought together at this point in history. God has made YOU their dad. You are the man God wants to use to point those little people in your house to Him.
• Truth = Tap into God’s unlimited resources. Ask God for wisdom to know how to lead your children. Ask God to help you speak the words that your children need to hear. How does God lead you? Follow His example. I’ll say it again because it’s worth repeating; “What you need for them you get from Him.”
• Truth = Honor your father and mother. (Deuteronomy 5:16). What did they do well? Tell them. Brag on your parents in front of your children. Also, absolutely take the good things they did and use them in your parenting.
What if your father figure was either absent or a poor example? The lie you battle may be anger, resentment, or discouragement from having a poor example. Your desire is simply to have a bar to reach for. Not knowing how to do something is so frustrating and discouraging.
• Truth = Your example is your Heavenly Father. Spend the next two weeks in these Scriptures. I outlined a schedule below. I want you to write down the answer to these two questions for every verse; What do these verses say about God as a Father? What do these verses say about you as a son?
Sunday – Isaiah 64:8
Monday – Psalm 27:10
Tuesday – Psalm 68:5
Wednesday – Psalm 103:11-13
Thursday – Proverbs 3:11-12
Friday – Matthew 5:16
Saturday – Luke 6:36
Sunday – Luke 11:2-4
Monday – Luke 11:11-13
Tuesday – Luke 12:30-32
Wednesday – Luke 15:11-32
Thursday – Luke 23:46
Friday – Luke 24:49
Saturday – Galatians 4:6
• Truth = You can, and by God’s grace will, be a good example for your children.
• Truth = Becoming a good father is a process. We are at the exact point in the process where God wants us. I say “we” because all of us are in process. Stay there. Be patient. God is developing you into a great example (Hebrews 12:5-13).