Grieving Part One
I’m in Atlanta for a friends funeral. In my mind the end came way too soon for her. My mind races trying to answer the question “why?” My emotions are real but not always true. Here are 4 truths about death that God has given me in His Word. I need them. Maybe you do as well.
1) Death was not God’s original plan. Genesis 3 happened. Sin now saturates every part of creation. From sin came death. Now we get to experience the consequences of sin like pain. We get a play by play of sin’s entrance in Genesis 3. Remember this; death was not part of God’s original plan.
2) God knows what death feels like. He sent His only son to die because of our sin. Romans 8:32 (CSB) “He did not even spare His own Son but offered Him up for us all…” Express that grief and let God comfort you. God knows what death feels like.
3) The body of Christ suffers together. The care we experience can take on many forms. Crying together, a hug, an encouraging email, an “I’m praying for you” text, flowers sent, meals prepared. Sometimes the best community is just being with a friend. No words. No solutions. No pithy Christianese. Just being there. “So if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it…” (1 Corinthians 12:26 CSB)
4) Build in margin to mourn. American mourning feels remorse for taking off work 3 days and scrambling to return. God designed our emotions. He even provided margin to the nation of Israel for mourning. They mourned both Aaron and Moses for thirty days (Numbers 20:29 and Deuteronomy 34:8). It is not about the number of days. It is about building in margin to mourn.
That’s all for now. Go suffer with those who suffer.